Frequently Asked Questions

Need help? The following should cover most of your questions.

General Help

How does the Chat New Zealand site work?

Chat New Zealand provides a safe, secure and anonymous way to find and communicate with people of your choice. In a nutshell, you choose a username (a screen name or alias) and set up a profile describing yourself and the type of person and relationship you are looking for. You can view other people's profiles by searching the site and, in turn, they can view your profile. When you find someone that interests you, you can send a message via the site to their username. The message is sent to their email address from your username - your real name and email address are never shown. In turn, you may receive messages from other members. These messages will be from their username and not their real email address, protecting both your and their privacy. When you are ready you may choose to tell the other member your real contact details. We recommend that you read our guidelines for safe online dating.

What is the difference between a member and a subscriber?

Everyone who sets up a profile is a member. To contact someone for the first time, for example, you need to be a paying subscriber.

Is it free, or is there a catch?

To become a member is free. Members can use most features of the site, including reading messages received from potential matches. While members can send or reply with a one-liner, only paying subscribers can write personal custom messages. Our subscription rates are very reasonable, please visit our subscription page to view our rates.

Why can't I send messages?

To send messages you must be a subscriber. Please visit our subscription page to view our rates or to sign up.

Is my privacy respected?

Yes. We will never give your details to other members or use your details for any purpose without your permission. For full details please review our privacy policy.

Is the content censored?

As a rule no. We're not here to police our members. However, we reserve the right to hide, delete or modify unacceptable profiles. Amongst other reasons we reserve the right to delete or modify profiles that:

  • Contain contact information such as email or Skype addresses, telephone numbers, addresses, etc.
  • Are illegal, e.g. under 18 years of age or solicit contact from people under 18 years.
  • Are racist, or attack other groups or religions.

Please refer to our terms of use for full details.

How do I get to the Home page?

Select the Chat New Zealand logo at the top of the page to go to the Home page.

Login Help

I've forgotten my login details. How do I find them?

Easy! Just click on the Forgotten Password link, complete the simple form and we'll email you a reminder of your username and a link that allows you to reset your password.

If you joined with your social network account, click on the related button and sign in with your social network details. If you still have a problem, please contact us.

Can I change my password?

Yes. Select the profile icon (at the top right of every page). Go to the Account Details page of your profile and follow the edit instructions.

How do I log out?

You can log out from every page on the site by selecting the profile icon (at the top right of every page) and then selecting Log Out from the options displayed.

Profile Help

Why must I set up a profile to use the site?

You can search the site without setting up a profile. However, to view full member profiles you need to become a member and set up a profile. Remember, it's free to become a member.

Do I have to pay to set up a profile?

No. To set up a profile you simply need to become a free member; it is only necessary to become a (paying) subscriber when you, for example, want to send messages to other members.

How do I set up my Profile?

If you are not yet a member, start by joining Chat New Zealand for free. If you're already a member, just click on Edit Profile.

Can I change my Username?

Yes. Select the profile icon (at the top right of every page). Go to Account Details and follow the edit instructions.

How do I edit my Profile?

Select the profile icon (at the top right of every page). Go to Edit Profile and follow the edit instructions.

Can I hide my profile from public view?

If you've joined Chat New Zealand more than 30 days ago, or if you have an active subscription, you will be able to hide your profile. Go to the Settings page of your profile and change 'visible' to 'hidden'. Note that you can switch this back to 'visible' at any time if you so wish.

Can my profile be seen by users of your other dating sites?

Yes. From the moment you complete your profile on one of our services, our aim is to help you find as many other people as possible that match the type of person you are looking for. This means that as well as being able to see members of Chat New Zealand, you may also have access to other member profiles from other carefully selected Network Services and vice versa. You can find details of these services Network Services. Remember, our two-way matching process helps all of our members select suitable profiles, so even though yours may be seen by other users of the services listed, generally they will only see your profile if you both match what you are jointly looking for.

Bear in mind that any mail or correspondence you receive through our system will always appear in your profile inbox in the normal way irrespective of which service the sender is a member of. Please note, for security reasons your log in details will only work on the service you originally joined.

For further information on how we protect your Personal Information such as your full name or contact details, please refer to our Privacy Policy.

How do I delete my profile?

Go to the Account Details page of your profile, click the 'Delete My Profile' link at the bottom of the page. NB: This process cannot be reversed and will completely delete all your details on the site. If you are a subscriber and have time left on your subscription, it will be deleted with your records and cannot be refunded or applied to other (future) profiles. If you are not sure about this, we recommend that you simply hide your profile.

Photo Help

How do I add a photo to my profile?

Go to My Photos and follow the guidelines for uploading photos.

Does my photo automatically show on my profile?

No. All newly uploaded photos must be checked and approved by our support staff before they become publicly visible. The same is true of existing photos if you change your main profile photo. Photos are usually checked within 24 hours of upload, but this may be longer at times of high demand, and on weekends when we have fewer staff on duty.

Are there any specific requirements for adding photos?

Yes. Your photo must either be in JPEG, GIF, PNG, BMP, TIFF or PCX format. Your photo must be less than 8192kB, but there is no restriction on the dimensions of the image you upload. We will automatically resize it if it is too large. Please refer to the detailed instructions in Photo Help.

Why did my photo disappear from my profile?

Your photo may be deleted if it does not comply with our technical requirements, is obscene or is a picture of a celebrity or other copyrighted material such as cartoon pictures.

How do I invite someone to view my private photos?

While viewing the profile of the person you want to invite, select More (...). From the options displayed, select 'Invite to view Invitation-Only photos'.

Search Help

How do I search?

For a quick and basic search, use the Basic Search. You can do a more detailed search with Advanced Search.

In addition, we offer a wide range of options for you to find people. Discover your matches, fans or people who've viewed your profile in Connections or see who's new, online or celebrating their birthday in the Find section.

How do I search for a specific member name?

Easy. Using the Username Search page in the Find section, enter the other person's username or part of their name and click 'Go'.

Why do I not get any results when I search?

You are most probably making your search criteria too narrow. Try relaxing your requirements a bit, e.g. a wider age range, etc. If you are looking for a blonde, blue eyed 21 year old, non-smoking female living in Outer Mongolia who wants children, chances are you will not get many results!

What is a match?

Matches are other members whose profiles meet the criteria you specified in your My Ideal Match page when you set up your profile. Our matching engine performs two-way matches, so members will only appear in your match list if your profile also meets the criteria they specified for their matches.

How do I refine my matches?

Make sure your profile is as complete as possible and that your desired partner details are not too open. For example, if your desired partner is a female aged between 18 and 80 living anywhere in the world matching will not work well for you. The trick is to find the right balance between too open a match and too narrow a match. As well as the profile details you specify for a match you have the option to rate how important each detail is.

How do I add someone as a favourite?

Simply select the heart icon to add someone as a favourite. In search results, you'll find it next to the envelope icon. While viewing a profile, select the heart icon below the person's profile photo and username. Select the same icon if you want to remove someone from your favourites.

How do I see when a member was last online?

Knowing when someone last logged in is very useful when you look at their profile. If you're on a mobile or table device, click on the info icon ('i') next to the favourite icon in search results or to the right of the match % when viewing a profile. If you're on a PC, this will automatically display.

Can I remove an unwanted fan or match?

Yes you can. While viewing your fans or matches page, simply click on the cross ('X') at the top right corner of the profile displayed.

How do I add notes and ratings?

Simply select the 5 stars in a member's profile. A popup will appear for you to add a rating and/or a note.

How can I view notes/ratings that I have recorded?

To view profiles you've rated or added a note to, go to Notes or Ratings in the Connections section.

How do I edit a note or a rating?

Follow the same steps as you would rate or add a note by selecting the 5 stars in a member's profile. When the popup appears, edit the note and/or rating. To remove a rating, select the 'Clear rating' link and save.

Contacting Members

How do I contact another member?

From search results or while viewing someone's profile, select the message (envelope) icon. Type your message and hit Send.

Will any of my details be exposed?

No. The message sent to the other member will only contain your username, your message and brief instructions telling them how to reply. See our privacy policy for further details.

I received a message from another member. How do I reply?

The easiest way is to follow the link provided in the email you received. That will take you directly to their message. Remember, unless the person who sent you the message is a premium subscriber, you will need to be a subscriber to reply.

Must I be a subscriber to receive messages?

No, you will receive messages even if you are not a subscriber. However, unless the person who sent you a message is a premium subscriber, you will need to be a subscriber to reply.

I'd prefer not to receive messages in my regular email inbox. Can you help?

We suggest you set up a free Web-based mail account with a service such as Outlook.com and use this email address in your profile. Note that there is a potential down side to using free email services. Some of them disable your account if you do not check it regularly. In that case the emails other members send to you will be lost and, if we receive several consecutive bounces from your address, we may hide or remove your profile.

How do I stop receiving messages from a specific member?

While viewing the message or the profile of the person you no longer want to receive messages from, select the 'Block Him/Her' option from the More (...) dropdown. Blocked members are not able to send you any messages. You can remove this block at any time.

How do I know if a message I sent has been read?

When a message has been sent, one tick will display with the time stamp. Once it's been read, two ticks will display.

How do I remove or delete messages from members I no longer have contact with?

We do not have an option to permanently delete messages. Instead, use the Archive option to remove or hide messages you no longer want in your recent messages. To archive a message, select the Archive Conversation option under More (...) while viewing a conversation. From the main messages page, select the cross icon to the right of each conversation listed. Messages that have been archived is visible under Archived messages and can be restored to recent messages by following the same steps above.

Subscription Help

What does it cost to subscribe to Chat New Zealand?

We offer a range of competitive subscription packages, please visit our subscribe section for details.

Is it safe to enter my credit card details on the site?

Yes. Credit card payments are processed using our WorldPay card-processing gateway. WorldPay is one of the largest and most respected global card processing companies. All your card details are encrypted for maximum security whilst travelling over the Internet. Further, no credit card details are stored anywhere on our site.

What will appear on my credit card account?

During initial authorisation, the transaction will appear in your account as DATING LAB LIMITED. (Dating Lab is the name of the company that runs this site.) Once the transaction is settled (typically after a day or two), the final description will change to a purchase from CHATNEWZEALAND COM.

Will my subscription automatically be renewed?

Yes, if you subscribe using a credit or a debit card, then you will be re-billed at the end of your first subscription period. However, if you purchase a subscription as a gift for someone, pay using an alternative method, or cancel your agreement before your renewal date, then you will not be re-billed. Should you wish at any time to cancel the automatic renewal of your subscription, simply go to the Status page and click on the cancellation link. You can find out more about the automatic renewal by clicking here.

I have not used all of my subscription and want to delete my profile. Will I be refunded the balance?

No, unused portions of a subscription are generally not refundable. Deleting your profile will result in your unused subscription being lost.

Will my profile remain on the site after my subscription ends?

Yes. You will however need to subscribe again if you want to activate your subscriber benefits again.

Why am I being asked to verify my card details?

You may be asked for an additional level of authentication called MasterCard SecureCode or Verified by Visa depending on your card type. These systems have been put in place by the card networks and the banks in order to provide an extra layer of security against fraud, and some banks have started to make it compulsory for all online transactions when shopping with a merchant that supports SecureCode / Verified by Visa as we do.

What is the difference between a standard and premium subscription?

With a standard subscription, anyone you contact must have their own subscription in order to reply to you. Whereas, with a premium subscription, anyone you contact is able to reply to you for free, even if the person doesn't have a subscription of their own.

Safety and Privacy Help

Can I automatically prevent contact from members who do not meet one or more of my non-negotiable match criteria?

Yes. From the Profile dropdown, select the Settings option. Update the Match Settings by selecting 'No' to the 'Allow members who do not meet one or more of your non-negotiable requirements to favourite and/or message you.'. Members who do not meet your non-negotiable match criteria will not be able to send you a message or add you as a favourite. Profile views from these members will also be excluded from your Profile Views page. This rule will not apply in instances where you've sent a member who does not meet your non-negotiable criteria a message or added them as a favourite.

But remember, for it to work, ensure you've selected the 'Non-negotiable' importance level for the selections you feel strongly about on the My Ideal Match page.

How do I block someone?

While viewing a member's profile, select the Block Him/Her option from the More (...) dropdown. Blocked members cannot see your full profile and will not be able to contact you.

How do I report someone?

If another member's behavior is giving you cause for concern or if someone's being downright abusive, please let our Support Team know by selecting the 'Report Abuse' option in the More (...) dropdown. All complaints are treated in the strictest confidence and could result in, amongst other things, the suspension or deletion of the offending member's profile.

Verification Help

Why should I verify my mobile number?

We want to ensure that we provide you with a safe and secure dating community. Knowing that you're communicating with another member who has verified their mobile number helps add a level of trust.

How do I verify my mobile number?

Click on the Verify button in the My Account section of your profile and follow the easy instructions. We'll send you a text message with a 6-digit verification code to enter in the field provided.

Is mobile verification free?

We do not charge for verification. If your mobile provider bills you to receive text messages, a charge may apply.

I didn't receive a text message. What do I do?

If you tried sending the text message multiple times and still did not receive the verification code, you could try the following:

  • Make sure you're in an area that has strong network coverage.
  • Confirm that your mobile number is able to receive text messages.
  • Wait a few minutes. Text message delivery can be delayed in densely populated areas if the mobile network infrastructure isn't well maintained.
  • Consider verifying your mobile number on another day - it's possible that your mobile network may be experiencing transmission problems.

Chat New Zealand App

Does Chat New Zealand have an app available?

Yes, it's called TDL Connect and it's currently available for iOS on the App Store and for Android on Google Play. Download it for FREE.

Why is it called TDL Connect and not Chat New Zealand?

Chat New Zealand is one of many websites operated by Dating Lab Limited. Dating Lab has created one app, TDL Connect, for users of all its websites. When you first download TDL Connect, you will see the TDL Connect branding and logo. Once you log in with your normal username and password, you will see the familiar Chat New Zealand branding and logo.

Why use the app instead of using the site on my mobile web browser?

With the app, you get instant notifications whenever someone sends you a message or shows interest in your profile. You'll never have to miss out on a new fan or new message again.

How do I log in with my Facebook account?

Unfortunately you cannot log in with your Facebook account on the app. To log in to the app, first log in as per normal on the web and reset your password on the Account page of your profile. Once you've reset your password, you'll be able to log in to the app using your username and new password.

How do I manage my notification settings?

While logged in via the app, manage your notification settings on the Settings page in the profile section.

How do I cancel my subscription's automatic renewal on Android/Google Play?

The following instructions apply to subscriptions purchased with a Google Play app store account.

From your Android device:
  1. Open the Google Play Store.
  2. Tap Menu > Account > Subscriptions
  3. Select TDL Connect.
  4. Tap Cancel.

From your computer:

  1. Go to play.google.com/store/account (You may need to sign in.)
  2. Select TDL Connect.
  3. Click Cancel Subscription.

Important: Uninstalling an app will not automatically stop your subscription. You must cancel your automatic renewal to end your subscription. If you uninstall the app without cancelling your subscription, you will still be charged.

How do I cancel my subscription's automatic renewal on the App Store?

The following instructions apply to subscriptions purchased with an App Store account.

From your iOS device:
  1. On the Home screen, tap Settings.
  2. Tap your Apple ID at the top of the screen. (You may need to sign in.)
  3. Tap Subscriptions.
  4. Tap TDL Connect.
  5. Turn off Automatic Renewal/Continuing subscription to cancel your subscription.

From your computer:

  1. Open App Store (You will need to be signed in.)
  2. Go to Account Settings.
  3. In the Manage section, click Manage displayed on the right of Subscriptions.
  4. Choose TDL Connect.
  5. Turn off Automatic Renewal/Continuing subscription to cancel your subscription.

Important: Uninstalling an app will not automatically stop your subscription. You must cancel your automatic renewal to end your subscription. If you uninstall the app without cancelling your subscription, you will still be charged.